Helpful Skills
Listening
Life feels chaotic. What do I do? I don't know what step to take next. I feel frustrated, anxious, at a dead end – sad.
Sound familiar? We can answer any question we may have for ourselves or our lives if we just take the time to learn how to listen to ourselves. We can find all our answers inside us. No one else can answer our questions. While they may heartily try and even almost get it right, underneath all our confusion we have our own answers. And, when we listen to our inner voice, we hear its power to help us effectively change our lives. I know we have our own answers because I believe that we were created whole, with full ability to live our lives successfully and happily. As I have learned to listen to my inner voice, I have heard the answers.
If you think you can't find those answers inside, ask yourself some questions. Who has my answers? How do I find them? How will I know when I find the correct answer? Why don't I think I have my own answers?
The first step in learning to listen to ourselves is to take a deep breath and ground yourself. To ground yourself means to shift your energy to your whole body, rather than just your head. So for a moment, try to just sit quietly focusing your awareness inside your body and see where your attention goes. The very idea or act of thinking means we focus in our brain. When I have a question and begin this exercise, my awareness usually resides in my head. It is all I can feel when I check in. As I focus on just breathing, my awareness goes through my whole body and the energy distributes evenly.
So , just relax take a deep breath and see where your awareness is; then, take another deep breath and see if you can bring that awareness deeper inside you and throughout your body. Keep going until it feels like your feet are standing about 6 feet underground. Now you're grounded!
Once grounded, ask yourself the question you want answered. What comes to your mind first? I hope you just got your answer. But if you didn't, and all you got was "I don't know," then let me explain some other things.
Let's see if you have your sensor on. A sensor represents a set of limiting beliefs. Our internal sensor comprises all of our experiences – and our judgments of them – whether they are good, bad, painful, sad, or perhaps create some other emotion. Many times we don't want to hear our answer because we don't like it and feel that once we've heard it, we have to make changes to our life right now. Not so – in fact, learning to hear your answer is more important than making changes. Listening is the first step, which is always the most important.
Listening to your inner voice means hearing what it has to say, no matter what. If we can hear what our voice is saying, then we have the information to make beneficial changes for our life when the time is right. Without our inner knowledge, any change we make would probably be more of a reaction than a conscious choice. For the moment then, turn off the sensor and allow whatever your response is to come forward – knowing that you can act on it when you are ready, which may be never. No judgments. Period.
If you got your answer, great; if not and you're sure you have your sensor off, try asking the question a different way, or ask a different question altogether. You are exploring. You don't know, so stay in that frame of mind. Your job is to find your answer somehow, so lovingly ask other questions and then listen for the answer. Other questions may be, "Why do I want to know the answer?" "How will this information help me?" "Are there other questions I can ask that would help me?"
Keep grounding and asking questions until you hear your voice clearly. You practice this skill. If you haven't been doing it regularly, give yourself the chance to practice and get better at it.
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